Warning Signs of Abusive Relations

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Occupiers have relations not only with each other but with members of the community at large. It is important to know the signs of abusive behavior, to not only identify it in others but to be aware if one begins adopting such behavior themselves.

Some of this list is more in regards to partner based relationships, but in essence it applies to relationships in general.

You may be in an abusive relationship if he or she:

• Is jealous or possessive toward you. (Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships)
• Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.
• Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.
• Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly.
• Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.
• Abuses drugs or alcohol.
• Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.)
• Blames you when he or she mistreats you.
• Has a history of bad relationships.
• Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.
• You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.
• Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, whether privately or around family and friends.
• Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child.
• Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control.
• Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.
• You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones.
• You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it's the right thing to do.

The information above was found here:
http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive_signs.htm